Having a mental illness can be hard af. I mean, who wants to wake up in the middle of the night, heart racing and crying for no real reason? No one. We deal with our mind betraying us every few minutes and hate the spaceship we’re trapped in.
Ground Control to Major Tom. Be careful but not too careful.
The way we react to the environment around us has to be calculated, thought out. We are the crazies that people write movies about. We take extra care in how we present ourselves because folks can’t handle you melting over someone yelling at you, then laughing at yourself ten minutes later. We have to precise, trained to handle “the unknown”.
Now your anxiety is ALL THE WAY UP (Fat Joe voice) because you have been trying your best to be careful, putting your emotional mask on, but you can’t hold back anymore. You finally erupt on someone, usually the one who loves you the most.
I get this. I understand it completely. Anyone who has Borderline Personality Disorder does. But your eruption is NOT excusable. No one deserves to be treated poorly because of your health concerns. I hate joining a support group where people are complaining about how dumb their mother is for burning the toast and the members are telling them they “totally understand” and bashing others that tell the OP that they shouldn’t disrespect their mother. We should be able to hold each other accountable for our actions. We should be able to see the wrong even if it felt uncontrollable at the time. We CAN control ourselves, you may just need more practice.
This spaceship we’re trapped in has a whole bunch of buttons and controls. With BPD, maybe yours got some wires hanging out, some buttons missing labels, and filled with smoke from the engine. You are the captain. You are in control. You may have had terrible training and feel like you should jump tf out of the ship, don’t. It’s your ship, you built it and are continuing to fix it up the way you need it to be.
Keep working Captain. You got all the tools you need. If you don’t, send me a message and we can talk it through.